Stubborn children

These days, children are becoming stubborn and stubborn as the days counts. Unlike the old days, children (even if not having reasons) want to disagree with parents. Why? This post would explain why a child is stubborn and it's effects on him, how to deal with a stubborn child.

The difference between the olden days and these days is advancement in technology and general knowledge. Children of the olden days aren't exposed to certain knowledge and in order to act, they'll need knowledge from an external source. This reason makes them not to be stubborn. These days however, the teachings children get in school, and social media which gives first hand information as quick as possible, makes children want to depend on their own knowledge. The more knowledge is acquired, the more it is used therefore, it wouldn't be bad to let your child to know more. Know the benefits of knowing more with my former post: knowledge.

The effect of stubbornness, for now, would affect just you his/her parent or guardian but would surely have effect on the child in the future. If a child disobeys your law, it'll definitely hurt you cause you'll feel sad that someone under your care isn't really under you.

Stubbornness shouldn't be viewed as all that negative. In fact it's a good thing. Everyone knows the negative impact on stubbornness so I'll focus more on the positive:
1. When a child is stubborn, he'll/she'll be able to do things in a way which seems right to him/her
2. A stubborn child would have more reasons for his/her actions unlike children who aren't stubborn and would only give the reasons their parents told them.
3. The world is fast improving and you parents/guardians might not be going along with the knowledge of the world as fast as your child. If you limit some of his/her actions cause they go against yours, you're actually toying their intelligence and might make them dull.
4. Stubborn children might be more successful in life cause they want to reason in their own way and give account of their actions. Children who aren't stubborn and talk back at their parents on the other hand, would do things because their parents told them so.

Here's how to deal with stubborn children:
1. If a child argues with you, give him/her some space. Use quality time to research on whatever you're arguing about to know if truly his/she's right.
2. If you're very sure that you're right, perhaps you've consulted external source, keep persisting: tell him/her your reasons and points, let him/her tell you his/her reasons and points as well.
3. If you're sending a child to a weird errand, explain your reasons so he/she would grumbly accept.
4. If your child is truly going off-course, sit with him/her. Humble express your love for him/her
5. Meditate the real reason why your child is stubborn