Friendship requires great responsibility from both parties in order to grow. Here's a list of people that you feel are you friends but actually aren't:
1. Story mate
If your mutuality with someone is just story telling then this person isn't really your friend. Why? If it's story you're looking for, perhaps something just happened and you're looking for someone to share the info with you, then you can get the info from anywhere. Even meeting anybody who knows something about what you need would be able to satisfy you. You shouldn't call someone your friend just because of stories.
2. Company
You're feeling lonely, perhaps you have not much friends in your environment and there's this person who'll always keep you company and make you feel secure and warm. Deep within you, you'll feel there's no greater way of defining a friend than what this person is displaying to you. Well, know that a friend isn't a friend just because of keeping you company(it could be listed among the secondary reasons*). If you're really looking for company, get a pet or go online. You'll get the satisfaction you need from either of the two options.
Now what is true friendship about?
1. Challenge in knowledge and wisdom
Ask yourself: there are two rooms, the first room consist of people who'll always agree with you. Whatever you say, they buy your idea and support you. The other room however, is filled with people who'll always oppose you. Whatever you say, they'll oppose you until you bring concrete evidence that you're correct. Of these two rooms, which is better? It's the second room that's better because with such people, you'll want to research some more and find solid evidence. What if you've been wrong? With your research, you'll be able to identify your errors making your know more.
2. Challenge in actions
People tend to like persons that'll fight for them in quarrels . Persons that if asked to state what caused the dispute between you and someone, would judge the case to your favour. These sort of persons, actually are pleasurable and you'll like to always be around them cause they're always by your side. The bitter truth however is that they're actually ruining your life. How? Someone who always conceals your wrong doings without notifying you of what you've done, Isn't giving you a chance to change. A true friend would always tell you that you've done something wrong no matter how angry you are.
"If you're in a room where you're the smartest and always appear to be the most correct, go out cause you're in the wrong room"
A true friend is someone that wouldn't keep enmity with you for a long while cause you can't do without each other.
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